
It is said that everyone, from animals to humans, lately also artificial intelligence, we all follow the path of least resistance or the path of least or minimum effort.
What is this law of minimum effort?
It is the one that shows us that when something can be done in several ways, the easiest option is the one that involves the lowest possible energy consumption. Obviously, because it is the most effective way to get the same result by consuming as little as possible and finally because we are comfortable as well.
The law of minimum effort reigns in all spheres of life: in the business world where we set achievable goals and create processes based on a gradual development; in the sphere of health in which we live with a pain in the knees, saddles or with occasional bilious attacks without really treating them, then in the sphere of the couple's relationship in which we “wake up” only when a major crisis occurs; in the management of our spare time that we gradually fill until its final disappearance or in the sphere of personal development in which we manage, for example, due to the intense rhythm of life, not to bring anything new. Sometimes it is our fast-paced rhythm, other times it is the excessive worry or even neglect and complacency that keep us from making a greater effort.
This law of minimum effort has an extraordinarily pleasant part, which keeps us in the flow. But now I want to approach the reverse of the beautiful medal of minimum effort: the one in which we are satisfied with little because it is comfortable like this and because it does not subject us to a greater effort than usual.
The short path that forces us to think outside the box
Peter Thiel, one of the co-founders of PayPal, said that “when you have a goal that you think you can achieve in ten years, the best strategy to make it a reality is to think of ways to achieve the same goal in one year."
Sounds impossible, doesn't it? When we think of this "impossible" in a proactive way it makes us force ourselves to find new ways to achieve our goal and pushes us out of the patterns in which we operate now. Visualizing seemingly impossible goals such as spending a month in Iceland, tripling your current income, entering a completely new market with your business, becoming an ambassador, or having perfect control over your mind, your thoughts, helps you to develop just that lateral thinking and not to use the well-trodden path and the classic steps of reaching your goal.
The role of goal visualization
The visualization of the goal is based primarily on its clear formulation. So, I invite you first to write down on a sheet of paper what your goal is. Of course, writing it down does not make it real, but it is the starting point.
Then give yourself this day to write down at least 8 steps you could take to achieve your goal and write down on the paper what you will do, how you will do it, when you will do it, and what it will bring you - maybe it's a state of contentment, a better knowledge of your field or the joy of having done something that brings you closer to your goal.
For example, if you want to control your thoughts because you realized that your mind is too scattered to achieve your goals and you oscillate between optimism and pessimism, you over-analyze and lose the start or you always fear failure, then here are some suggestions for your list:
- Look for books on the market that talk about the mind and mind control and read them at least partly
- Meet people who lecture or teach mind control techniques and ask for their advice
- Make a selection and register to their courses and go through the programs they offer
- Watch videos on this subject on Youtube
- Train your attention through various specific exercises you can do at home
- Then train your attention in concrete life situations
- Train your attitude as an observer and enhance detachment
- Monitor your results once a month
Follow all these steps exactly and remember to set a deadline for achieving your goal that is much shorter than the deadline you would normally allocate. What shortcuts do you find?
I propose you such an exercise right now: What would be from your point of view the 8 steps if you want to communicate better in the relationship you have? I invite you to write them down in the comments below!
If you need help in achieving your goals, contact me for a coaching session!
I wish you good luck and I am looking forward to meeting you!
2 Comments
Buna ziua Cornelia,
…da, spui bine ce spui; si imi place provocarea pe care o lansezi
Adaptez un pic la ce ma intereseaza :
As vrea sa comunic mai bine in relatiile pe care le am; presupun mereu ca unele lucruri se deduc si ca ceilalti ar trebui sa faca la fel… asa ca apar scantei.
Deci, ar trebui sa fac cam asa ::
1. Studiul comunicarii relaționale – adica imifac temele si caut articole, studii, carti la subiect
2. Completez textul cu imagini : youtube la subiect, conferinte, interviuri…
3. Ma uit atent la mine ( ?) modelele comportamentale și reacție cu ceilalti (asta da provocare pentru ca sunt obisnuit cu mine asa cum sunt…)
4. Sunt atent la comportamentul și reacția celor cu care vreau să comunic mai bine
5. Vorbesc despre ce simt si imi doresc, fără sa-i judec pe cei din jur sau sa le fac reprosuri
6. Probez ce am gasit in ce am citit si vizionat si vad ce si cum functioneaza in relatia cu ceilalti
7. Fac un bilant la fiecare sfarsit de zi
8. Sunt atent ca ceea ce comunic sa nu vina din tiparele mele ci din inima….
Chiar o sa vad cum functioneaza 8 etape in urmatoarele 3 luni!
Succes in ceea ce faci!
Foarte fain!
Excelenta lista ta, George!
Mult, mult succes!
Sa revii cu detalii! 😉