In the previous article, I have detailed that hope is a combination of setting our goal, persevering to pursue that goal, and believing that we have the power, ability, and endowment to get where we set out to go. In this article, I want to write about the cultivation of hope and its great value, because I notice in the current period the need to learn and cultivate hope not only for my clients, or those who are now facing dramatic situations but in general for all of us who want back the rhythm and freedom we have all lived our lives, for all of us who want beautiful and harmonious lives. I am referring to you and me because I have realized that the right attitude towards justified hope can work small miracles that will give a completely different turn to our daily confrontations.
Understanding hope superficially
The pragmatism and speed that characterize the society in which we live make us not give much importance to hope. We tell ourselves that it's all over and what's the point of struggling with complicated situations. We skip relationships, contracts, and time too easily but we always remain at the center of our world - as it is human to be - but we always justify our position, opinion, decision, feeling that we are the most important, and we have something clear to do.
The silent and hidden presence of hope in our lives
In fact, in these situations, hope always speaks through us. It is the one who wakes us up in the morning for a new day full of activities, physical or mental ones, even without being aware of it. It is the fuel we use in everything we do. We need it like air to feel alive and to do .... anything.
If hope would not exist, if we didn't have its fuel, we wouldn't have a reason to wake up in the morning, even for a new, routine day or for the hard day's work or a difficult day of medical treatment. For even in such extreme situations, there is always a glimmer of hope that the hard day's work will be repaid and that the money will be useful to us, or that the day of treatment, even if it does not cure the disease, will at least slow its progression, or that this day will contain something memorable or no less than comfortable and gentle.
This background hope that always accompanies us is what makes us believe that today will be better, or even if the day turns out to be different, that tomorrow or another tomorrow will be better.
The disastrous impact of hopelessness
Lack of hope, that state in which we are convinced that nothing makes sense and has no value - so we can unscrupulously do whatever we want, is a dangerous state showing that we are no longer alive from a spiritual point of view. Of course, life continues to animate our body, but continuous development no longer takes place - equivalent to the death of the soul. It is also the basis of generalized and chronic depression or anxiety. It is that false belief that nothing makes sense anymore.
Hope and meaning go hand in hand
On the contrary, where there is hope, there is meaning, and therefore the possibility of transforming a thing in our life into something better; that openness and availability for transformation that also has its way to reach the goal; so not only a phantasmagoric opening but anchored in the achievable, in realism and in the concrete.
Hope as a bridge through time
On the other hand, it is hope that connects the past, the present, and the future. It is the one that helps us visualize, even if vaguely, our own future, which will then become the magnet that will attract us to it - if it has the characteristics of hope detailed in the previous article.
Examples
- It may be, for example, the father's desire for his descendants, to have a better life, and it is this hopeful image that sometimes determines him to make unattainable efforts for someone else.
- It can be a hopeful desire for healing that starts with a well-thought-out and appropriate treatment plan and allows nature and the body to recover, perhaps surprisingly and miraculously, to lead to healing.
- It can be a career plan that aims far, but followed step by step, in a systematic way to lead in time to its realization.
Regardless of the field in which we set our goal, using the fuel of genuine hope - with all its ingredients - the chances of achieving the goal increase exponentially.
You know the saying: when it rains, look for rainbows; when it's dark, look for stars! So, choose hope! Alege deci această speranță!
If you need help and guidance in the life situations you face, in clarifying the choices you make, contact me for a coaching session!
I wish you good luck and I am looking forward to meeting you!
